Read the title. Read it again. I am 100% serious. I have never liked Christmas and this year I wanted to delve into why:
Have you ever heard of the 5 Love Languages? Yes? Well, I’m going to tell you anyways. People feel and give love in different ways. The way you feel love might not be the same as you receive love and one person can vary greatly from the next. These are the languages:
So those are the 5 Love Languages. If you couldn’t tell already, Christmas is hyper focused on one.
I want to make it very clear that I don’t think one love language is better than the other. Although I could go off about the perverse consumerism that causes people to get trampled at Wal-Marts, I won’t. That’s the way it is and I don’t really think it’s why I don’t like Christmas.
I know there are people who enjoy nothing more than to give a gift to a loved one to show how much they care. And I know there are plenty of people who love receiving gifts because it makes them feel loved. I appreciate these people. And that’s what the theory of love languages really means – not everyone is like you. For the best relationships, you should determine how your loved one gives and receives love. That way, you can cater to how they need to feel loved and you can appreciate their gestures of love more than you would have previously. And hopefully they do the same for you.
I’ve always been told I’m the worst gift receiver and probably giver. Most of the time I try to avoid gifts entirely. I don’t like them. I appreciate the thought put into ones given to me but I have a hard time showing that appreciation. They just make me uncomfortable. It’s not my love language in the slightest.
But this Christmas was wonderful. “Why?” you might ask. Well, I’ll tell you and show you if you check out the picture to the right. This year, I hosted dinner at my house. I purchased a turkey that was entirely too big and assigned a couple of dishes to my family members attending. I got gifts for my dad, sister and niece, knowing they wouldn’t approve of my “I spent $150 and two days on this meal” mentality. And I gave the gifts but it’s not what I really worried about.
Instead, I made an awesome Christmas dinner. I cooked an 18 pound turkey (seriously, anyone want leftovers?) which I had “brined” the night before. I didn’t even know what brining was before last week. Then I did the potatoes, green bean casserole and purchased cranberry sauce and gravy. (Make gravy? No. Let’s not get carried away about my skills in the kitchen.) My aunt brought squash and candied carrots. My dad brought rolls, stuffing and dessert, which I assigned to him because of my gluten free status. All in all, we had a feast. We just got to spend time together.
So those might be my love languages: time and service. I loved nothing more than to tell my family to sit back and relax because “I got this.”
It probably also added to the awesomeness that I was able to listen to Kelly Clarkson all afternoon because I was cooking. I’m not a fan of Christmas music but I’m a HUGE fan of Kelly. It really was a Kim Wetter Christmas and it was fabulous.
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I completely agree with you. I dislike the gift giving aspect of Christmas, as it takes away from the point. Jesus Christ's birthday thank you very much. I may not be that religious, but still... it is suppose to be about love, family and friendship; not who got what and its not expensive or good enough. Uh.